About Anne Bland smiling with Tantric Books

Hi, I'm Anne!

I'm your Tantric sex, love, and relationships coach, breathworker, and a public speaker.

I'm also the founder of the

Selfishly Happy Revolution

and the host of the

Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others Podcast.

Ready to explore private coaching? Book a free 30-minute call.

About Anne Bland, the Tantric Sex and Relationship Coach

My deepest desire is to inspire more happiness and pleasure in the world.


Because pleasure-positive and happy people just don’t start wars…

Joking aside, everyone deserves and is worthy of being happy and having more pleasure and peace in their lives.

We’re all different, but at core, we tend to desire the same things:

- to love and to be loved

- to have clarity on our desires and to feel desired

- to get our needs and desires met

- to feel that we are safe and

- that we belong

It would be my honour to have you join the Selfishly Happy Revolution and to start your own, empowering Pleasure Journey as a Selfishly Happy You.

After all, pleasure IS your birthright!

I definitely didn't get here overnight though.

In fact, quite the opposite...

Here’s a confession. I didn’t always believe that pleasure was my birthright…

To be quite honest, I suffered from a burn-out
and had a PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) from a cycling accident.

But, there was this part of me that kept wondering if things could be different.
It kept nagging me to find out how to be fully alive again!

As a single mother of three and a recovering Green political leader who worried about the climate change and the state of this beautiful planet, it wasn’t easy…

Little by little, I learned to put myself first and foremost, so that I’d have more to give to my family and to the world.

Just like they say on airplanes: “Put your oxygen mask first before helping others.”

I learned to become a “Selfishly Happy” the hard way.

It is my passion now to help others - so that YOU can have it easier, regardless of your gender.

Stanley Beckett's testimonial for Selfishly Happy Anne Bland

"Anne brings with her a world of knowledge and experience which she is always willing to share. She has a powerful vision of helping people to selfishly reconnect with their True Self again. It's funny how she teaches about selfishness, being the total opposite."

Stanley Beckett, CEO and Chief Trainer, South Africa

Being a multi-passionate woman, I:

- gained a MSc. in Philanthropy and Social Investment from Bayes (previously Cass) Business School in London

- was invited to study Climate Reality Leadership with Al Gore in Johannesburg

- qualified as a Breath Coach online from Barcelona

- was certified in Men’s Sexuality, Tantric Practice, and on Love, Sex, and Relationship Coaching

I’ve also studied the science of happiness and trauma healing to really understand why humans suffer and how we thrive, and have worked with mission and impact driven organisations in the UK and Finland.

Even though, I’m a self-confessed nerd when it comes to learning and self-development, I’ve also got 17 years of private practice experience.

I’ve guided people through deep, yet gentle, transformations and have worked with hundreds of clients around the world.

Care to get even more personal?

Here are a few fun facts…

I’m Finnish and have got a true Nordic liberal upbringing: I grew up thinking that nakedness is natural (I mean, all those saunas... There are more saunas in Finland per capita than cars...)

I built an eco-house in Finland and had 10 turkeys, 7 sheep, 3 dogs, 3 kids and 1 husband. I still have the kids.

I was sent to the United Nations by the Finnish Foreign Office and pretended to give a speech to an empty hall on that famous podium - a true photo opportunity for a politician (or for that grinning inner 7-year old...), isn't it?!

Now that my children are all adults, I've become a Digital Nomad travelling the world.

You might catch some of my not-so-professional sunset photos on Instagram every now and then...

Digital Nomad, Anne Bland, loving the sunset
About Anne Bland in United Nations AGM
About Anne Bland in her smallholding with a dog
Anne Bland with her sheep


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